I Wish I'd Known - Fiona's book for parents & carers
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The story of the book
In 2020 when Covid19 hit, the world shut down, and the busyness of the Foundation took a quieter turn, Fiona Spargo-Mabbs began writing a book for parents, the book she wishes she’d been able to read before her son Dan died. Hence the title, I Wish I’d Known. The concept was to recreate a parents’ workshop in a book, and the passionate commitment that drove it all, is what drives all that the Foundation exists to achieve: to prevent any other parent going through anything even the tiniest bit similar.
I Wish I’d Known interweaves the story of one family’s terrible loss with calm, measured and practical advice for parents, drawing on the most recent research and evidence. It explores the risks posed by drugs and alcohol, including legal risks and consequences. It provides practical advice for saying safe and information on reducing harm. It also explains the way the adolescent brain makes decisions, and provides strategies to help your children manage risk – and the influence of friends – at a time of life when this is most tricky. It considers what makes conversations work best at home, how to approach these if you have concerns, and where to go for more information and support.
There are ‘talking points’ throughout the book, with suggestions for things for parents and their children to do, talk about, look at, look up or consider.
“A life lost to drugs is a loss like no other. Throughout the book, Daniel’s story – his life, his death and what happened afterwards – not only provides a compelling reminder of the importance of those conversations, but also serves as an unforgettable eulogy to a son, brother, boyfriend and friend whose legacy continues to touch, and perhaps even save, the lives of other young people.” Sheldon Press
Gabby Logan about the impact that a DSMF talk had on her daughter and her thanks to Fiona for writing I Wish I’d Known:
Victoria Derbyshire on her admiration and respect for Fiona and for the profound and practical information within I Wish I’d Known:
Dr Suzi Gage on the importance of this evidence-based book to all parents:
A young people's perspective
Three of our Youth Ambassadors at Epsom College chat with Fiona about the importance of I Wish I’d Known to them and their parents:
Book club and reading resources
A parents' and teacher's perspective
Andy, Sarah and Danielle speak with DSMF Drugs Educator Asha Fowells about their reflections on I Wish I’d Known:
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